Loss of self-confidence is a common phenomenon in most people’s lives.
It becomes problematic when it becomes a permanent feature of a person’s life and begins to have a negative impact on all areas of a person’s life.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation, I suggest you read on.
I’ll provide you with effective tips drawn from my own experience and that of the clients I’ve coached in over 15 years of coaching practice.
4 tips for coping with a loss of self-confidence
1 – Change the meaning you’ve given to events
It’s not what happened in your private or professional life that caused you to lose or lose confidence.
These events have undoubtedly generated strong and unpleasant emotions, but what has produced a reduction in your confidence is the meaning you have given to these situations.
Accepting this reality may not be easy for you, but this awareness is the essential step you need to take to start recreating the balance essential to your well-being.
If you accept this explanation, then you’ll see that you can change your life for the better by giving a more appropriate meaning to the trials you’ve had to face.
Once you’ve given a new explanation to your life experiences, you’ll be ready to take new actions to change your life as you wish.
Now, let’s move on to the next tip, which is to draw your confidence from your past.
2 – Draw confidence from your past
In coaching, we work with our clients on situations linked to their present. However, your past can be very useful if you use it to access resourceful mental states.
Very simply, this involves taking the time to recall one or more situations in your life during which you demonstrated great confidence in your abilities.
Re-live these pleasant moments in your life, and think about how your abilities enabled you to achieve important goals.
Feel the emotions you experienced at that time and remember that your abilities are still within you.
They’re part of you and you can use them now.
If you succeeded once, you can do it again if you decide to.
Now let’s move on to the next tip, which is to draw your confidence from an ideal future.
3 – Visualize your success
Top-level athletes and, more generally, anyone who wants to perform to the best of their ability, use visualization techniques or mental imagery.
You can do the same to regain the confidence you’ve temporarily lost.
Act as a director and create your new personal and professional story.
Define as precisely as possible the kind of life you want to enjoy.
Imagine your ideal day, feeling motivated to get up in the morning and live your ideal life.
Include your values in this vision, as this will not only help you to achieve your goals, but will also enable you to feel fulfilled on a daily basis.
Then, start believing in what you imagine and, if necessary, create a belief about it that will help you to take the necessary actions to turn imagination into reality.
Now let’s move on to the next tip, which is to write a new story.
4 – Write a new story
If you can’t visualize your new life properly, or if you simply prefer to write, you can use your writing skills to write the new story of your life.
For example, you could write a story about the new life you’re about to create, adding as many elements as you can.
Then, as you did with the visualization, feel the emotions you’d experience if this story were really the story of your life.
Then, develop the certainty that you can make it happen, and plan your day according to what you want.
You can also rewrite what happened, adding new meaning and learning.
Then think about how you can use what you’ve learned to improve the quality of your life.
Conclusion on coping with a loss of self-confidence
In this article, I’ve shared with you 4 tips to help you regain your self-confidence.
To go further on this subject, I invite you to read my article on how to have more self-confidence at work.
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